I don’t know why I get so worked up about things sometimes. My life is a little rollercoaster these days and there was a new reason for me to get off balance today, but I always find something to feel better right after the little storms happen. I’m dealing with the whole social aid thing and I was told I may have to go after alimony, which I really don’t want to do because I’m afraid my ex will hate me even more thinking it was my decision, and that kind of sent me into a bad funk. But I’m doing better after getting help from my friend Madi. I’m supposed to write this letter explaining why I’m asking for aid and that means going over separation issues all over again, which isn’t funny, but must be done. It’s either finding a job soon or getting the assistance from the government until I go back to school in January.
On the other hand, the school thing is going wonderful. I just talked to the director of the Biology program on the phone and he was happy to hear I decided to study full-time. He said he will prioritize my application, so I can register for the Winter session at the end of November and told me I shouldn’t worry about anything, I’m admitted, even if it isn’t official yet. It makes me really lucky to have this opportunity and my task for tomorrow is to fill in my student financial aid application and see how it goes, but I have faith. I’ve already met a few nice peeps at the university and they are looking forward to seeing me around. It will be a very rewarding experience, I know it.
Then to make things even better, I received a call from someone I met here last week. He wanted to know how I was doing, give me encouragement and advice about things I can do to keep myself busy. He was happy to hear about school as well and told me it was a wise decision. It’s nice to find people who care about me, even if they just met me. I certainly receive blessings every day and I should learn to look at the bumps on the road as new departure points because from every bump, I get something good after.
Why would you feel bad about going after alimony? I can understand you not wanting to revisit that mess again, but keep in mind that he divorced you and not the other way around. Let him deal with the consequences of his decision too. Right now, Bea’s future – and not whether your ex hates you more or less -should be at the top of your priorities list.