See the good too!

I cannot understand women who are always complaining about how miserable their lives are because of their husbands. When someone I know only gives me the “bad” news about her house, of course I’ll have the wrong image of the man she married and I’ll start wondering why on earth she’s still with him, even if she seems to be so unhappy. I mean, if you are so miserable with that man… Right? Otherwise, start seeing the good things too and stop telling others stuff you shouldn’t be sharing with everyone, because “the dirty clothes are washed at home”.

We all have the right to complain from time time because our life partner is not perfect all the time. But nobody is! It makes me sick to my bone when all I hear from a friend is how inconsiderate and lazy her husband is, because I’m sure that man has another face to show. I however understand that sometimes marriages don’t work and that decisions have to be made, but can’t just they manage it personally?

When they start proclaiming that marriage is not that good it just drives me insane; just because you happen to have a couple of flip-flops in your relationship it doesn’t mean you can discourage others about it just to make them feel better because they don’t have what you have. And for that matter, I think it always takes two to make things work, so probably the one who is complaining is waiting for the other part to do all the work and that is not how things are. Or maybe that’s just how I feel.

Like I said, nobody is perfect and my own marriage is very far from being it too, but I’m happy. I love my husband even when he makes mistakes and I always try to highlight the good things he does because that makes me feel good. If I start concentrating only in the fact that sometimes he doesn’t help me around, or that he forgets things, I’ll start being unhappy. It’s simple like that. I’m married because I want to, because relationships rock, because we were made to live in couple and because it’s good to have someone to hug at the end of the day and know it’ll be the same the next one.

And for those who don’t have this kind of happiness, I will always have encouraging words to never stop hoping for that special someone to come to their lives. Even if maybe one day my own relationship starts falling apart.