Sometimes I wish I wasn’t this weak and knew how to say NO when people keep calling and asking if I can do things for them and I simply don’t have the time, or the will. I claim to be an honest person, yet I don’t have the guts to be sincere, probably because of the fact that I’m always trying to please people in order to avoid their criticism. I can’t help but hearing the lines of a scene in the Lizzie Mcguire Movie where the friend of Lizzie’s brothers tells him “You’re weak, weak!”. Ugh.
A few weeks ago I was invited to a Tupperware party. I did it because it was a friend of mine who was hosting it and I thought it was going to be fun. Far was I from realizing what I got myself into… darn it! The Tupperware Lady tried to get my friend into the business and asked me if I would host a party for her so I said “yes, of course” because it was my friend. Now this friend is not doing any business with Tupperware (she realized it’s not her thing), but I haven’t been able to get rid of the Manager who keeps calling and calling “to book a party”. I DON’T WANT TO HOST A TUPPERWARE PARTY, DAMN IT! Sometimes I just don’t answer the phone, but last night I didn’t look at the screen and answered to hear “Hey! This is ‘Her Name Here’ Tupperware!” (don’t they have last names or what? Did they all change it to “What’s Her Name Tupperware”?. Anyway, there I was on the rollercoaster again, not only being asked if I wanted to host the party, but being pushed to have one the day before Easter… I said yes… damn it, again!
I was saying yes and telling this lady I would talk to my mother in law and I was thinking “Beatriz, please… say no… now!”. But I didn’t. Now I have double pressure and I’m absolutely angry with myself for being so WEAK. But I have to gather courage, call Mrs. Tupperware and tell her this: “I was interested in hosting a party for my friend, but she’s not Tupperwear-ing after all and I don’t want to host a party anymore. I hate feeling pressured, I know you have to fill a monthly quota, but I’m not interested in being called and pushed around!”. There are many other reasons why I can’t and I don’t want to host a Tupperware party. I have to call this woman… now!
Update: Done, I called. Chicken shit left a message in her voice mail, but she didn’t answer… not my fault. I hope she won’t call and if she does I WON’T ANSWER.
These are comments to this entry that I had to recover:
good for you for calling!!
i say yes all the time. i want to please people…so i keep on saying yes and find that my plate is so full, i don ‘t know where to even start. i need to learn to say no more often. no to things i don’t want to do, or can’t do. i’m definitely too much of a “yesyes” person, so a huge bravo to you for standing up and saying no! you’ve just inspired me to reply an email with, “no!”
Posted by: lor at April 1, 2004 01:15 PM
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I think we are all weak at one point or another. The good thing is that you realize that is what is happening and that you want to change it. Props on calling the lady back ;)
Posted by: logtar at April 1, 2004 02:21 PM
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saying NO is so hard! Congratulation for doing it, even if it was voicemail. :)
Posted by: lex at April 1, 2004 05:27 PM
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Never never never host a party….because if you do, you have to invite friends who then feel obligated to buy something and then you feel guilty for benefiting from their spending because you get cool gifts in exchange. Only do it if you plan to get all your friends drunk, then and only then it’s really fun.
Posted by: Karan at April 1, 2004 09:40 PM
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I have the same problem – it’s so hard for me to say no for fear of what people will think of me sometimes. You definitely did the right thing, and hopefully next time I’m in that situation, I will too.
Posted by: Kerry at April 2, 2004 09:33 AM